Monday, November 16, 2020

Who's Influencing You?

By Andrea Merrell

“Stay away from that girl. She’s a bad influence on you,” my grandmother used to say from time to time when I was growing up. She meant well and was trying to protect me, but I never could figure out her criteria for “bad influence.”

Unfortunately, I didn’t always heed her advice—which was usually correct. Even as an adult, I've occasionally found myself connected with the wrong crowd.

According to Bob Gass, there are two groups of people we should never allow into our lives:

The first is composed of VNP people: very needy people, very negative people, and very needling people. The second contains VDP people: very draining people, very doubting people, and very distracting people.

Gass says we should love, help, and encourage them however we can but never allow them to influence or lead us.

Relationships are important. The wrong ones can pull us down and keep us in a constant state of turmoil. The right ones will lift us up, believe the best in us, speak words of truth into our life, and stand with us no matter what comes our way. There is nothing better than a God-ordained friendship.

Take a look around. Who’s influencing you?

(Photo courtesy of and Stuart Miles.)


  1. It is so easy to fall into that trap of bad influencers. Sometimes it is so subtle we don't recognize it at first. We should be on guard for these drains to our soul. Thank you, Andrea, for pointing them out.

    1. You're so right, Barbara. Sometimes we don't recognize it until we feel the very life has been drained out of us. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Blessings and Happy Thanksgiving! :)

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