Petty Nonsense

 

By Andrea Merrell

Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies

and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking

and from the spiritual powers of this world, 

rather than from Christ.

Colossians 2:8 NLT

“I did not say that.”

“Yes, you did.”

“Well, I didn’t mean it the way it sounded.”

“It doesn’t matter. It hurt. I will never forgive you.”

Sound familiar? This came from an actual conversation (uh … argument) I heard over something not even worth discussing. But I’ve heard—and been involved in—many others of this type.

It’s amazing how we battle each other over minor, petty, trivial things that no one will even remember next week. Whether it’s from a lack of self-confidence or the need to always be right, those battles get us nowhere. It’s a no-win situation that only hurts all parties.

Even in the Body of Christ, we let those disagreements creep in and separate believers. That’s why there are so many different denominations. Those in leadership cannot seem to agree on what the Bible says, and each group wants things their way—attire, music, doctrine … well, you get the picture.

God created us as unique individuals with our own idea of what is good. Right. Acceptable. And we are free to pick and choose—except when it comes to God’s Word. Paul tells us in Colossians that we should never allow anyone to capture or deceive us with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking.

There have been arguments over dimming the lights in church to not allowing drums on the platform to not allowing people to attend who wear shorts or have tattoos. Years ago I heard of a church that split because the men disagreed on wearing ties to church. Seriously?

Do we really think God is concerned about all this nonsense. Thankfully, He looks on the heart, not our outward appearance. He accepts us just as we are and will draw us to Him by His love in whatever way works best.

Timothy says, “A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be kind” (2 Timothy 2:24), so let’s stop arguing over things that simply don’t matter and get serious about sharing His love with a lost and dying world.

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The End of the Story

 

By Andrea Merrell

The end of a thing is better than its beginning.

Ecclesiastes 7:8 NKJV

The pastor’s wall was covered with diplomas, awards, and accolades of every type imaginable. Well-respected in his church and community, the man took great pride in his popularity and all his accomplishments. He carried his profession around like a trophy.

But just like so many others who take their eyes off the Lord and take credit for all He has done for them and through them, he fell into a sin-filled life and lost everything he had—his church, his family, and his reputation. His arrogance became his downfall, and his story did not end well.

On the other hand, let’s look at Rahab. She was known as a harlot. Not a good beginning, but because of her belief in and commitment to the God of Abraham, she was spared when her city fell and is now listed in the lineage of our Savior Jesus.

The Word for You Today says this about Rahab: “Her profession of faith mattered more than her profession as a harlot.” God redeemed her and redirected her life. Unlike the pastor, her life was tenuous at the start, but ended strong. What a testimony!

Many of us had a rough start in life, but God is all about redemption and restoration. He turns mourning into joy and replaces ashes with beauty. When we trust in Him, He can take ever the worst and most tragic situation and turn it around for our good and His glory.

As believers, we don’t know the future, nor can we control what happens in this life. But by placing our trust and hope in the Lord, we know the end of our story. And it’s better than anything we could ever imagine.

Do you know the end of your story?

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The Perfectionist Trap

 

By Andrea Merrell

How foolish can you be? After starting your new lives

in the Spirit, why are you now trying

to become perfect by your own human effort?

Galatians 3:3 NLT

For so many years, I thought everything in my life had to be perfect—my hair, my clothes, my house, my car, my words—so people would love and accept me. That misguided thinking bled over into my relationship with the Lord. As a people pleaser, I also worked hard to please the Lord. If I didn’t do everything just right or measure up to my own self-imposed standards, how could He possibly love and accept me?

The truth is perfectionism is a trap that holds us back from receiving God’s unconditional love, acceptance, and approval, as well as those around us. We can never fully experience God’s peace or a sense of well-being as long as everything associated with us has to be flawless.

One writer says that perfectionism is a “mindset of self-defeating thoughts and behavior aimed at reaching unrealistic goals.” When we live this way, we set ourselves up to fail each day because we think our accomplishments are never good enough. When we fall short of our own expectations, it only drives us to try harder—or to stop trying at all.

The good news is that God knows us better than we know ourselves and accepts us just as we are—our faults, imperfections, and weaknesses—and He gives us the ability to love and accept ourselves. And according to Galatians, no matter how hard we strive to do and be better, it is the Spirit’s job to change us, not our own human efforts. The Message translation brings it home:

Let me put this question to you: How did your new life begin? Was it by working your heads off to please God? Or was it by responding to God’s Message to you? Are you going to continue this craziness? For only crazy people would think they could complete by their own efforts what was begun by God. If you weren’t smart enough or strong enough to begin it, how do you suppose you could perfect it? Did you go through this whole painful learning process for nothing? It is not yet a total loss, but it certainly will be if you keep this up!

Don’t let yourself get entangled in the perfectionist trap. Instead, strive for excellence: doing the best you can with what you have and what you know.

There is nothing—and no one—perfect except our Lord.

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Who Are You Trying to Please?

 

By Andrea Merrell

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit,

but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.

Philippians 2:3 NKJV

 

For so much of my life I was a bona fide people pleaser. Unsure of myself and lacking a healthy sense of self-esteem, I tried to be and do what I thought everyone else expected of me. What I didn’t realize at the time was that my efforts were rooted in pride and selfishness. I cared more about what people thought about me than I cared for those people. 

My misguided and performance-oriented efforts led to nothing more than hopelessness, anxiety, and feelings of being less than, never good enough. I was seeking acceptance and approval in the wrong places.

The apostle Paul tells us in Philippians that we should esteem others better than ourselves. The NLT says it like this: “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.”

Once I found my true identity in Christ and took my focus off myself, I learned to be less self-conscious and more God-conscious. My approval and acceptance come from Him, and He is the only one I need to please—not others and not even myself. That revelation set me free to love others without any selfish motives.

One writer says that we should care about others even when they don’t care about us. That’s the love of God in action.

So ... who are you trying to please?

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Are Your Words Producing a Good or Bad Harvest?

 

By Andrea Merrell

Whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.

Galatians 6:7 NKJV

 

As the woman shared all her woes for the week, the group discussion went down the proverbial rabbit hole as each woman attempted to one-up the other. “You think that’s bad, let me tell you …”

Some say if not for bad luck, they’d have no luck at all. And there’s always good old Murphy’s Law that says anything bad that can happen will happen.

Not only are these negative mindsets unhealthy and unscriptural, they’re contagious. They put us in a position of sowing bad seed which produces a bad crop. That’s the law of sowing and reaping found in Matthew 13. What we plant is what we reap. Or to put it plainly, what we give is what we get back.

We don’t realize how much power our words carry—both good and bad. James calls our tongue “an unruly evil full of deadly poison” (3:8 KJV). Proverbs tells us that “death and life are in the power of the tongue” (18:21 NKJV).

When we want something different, we have to do something different. When we keep saying and doing the same old things, we’ll keep getting the same old results.

Jesus said in Mark 11:23 that we can have whatever we say—when we believe (His Word) in our hearts and have no doubts. That’s how faith works.

Let’s make a decision to be careful with our words and intentional about the seeds we’re sowing because we will reap what we sow. That’s a fact.

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