Who Has the Final Say?

 

By Andrea Merrell

God’s way is perfect. All the Lord’s promises prove true.

He is a shield for all who look to him for protection.

Psalm 18:30 NLT

 

“My marriage is in trouble,” the woman told her friend. “We’ve reached a stalemate. We tried to agree to disagree, but we can’t even agree on that.”

This couple had reached a point of no return. Neither willing to compromise. No going forward or finding a resolution. They were stuck. And both wanted to have the final say. 

Pride can get us in a lot of trouble, especially when we’re unwilling to admit we’re wrong or even consider another person’s feelings or opinion. The Bible says, “Pride leads to conflict” (Proverbs 13:10 NLT). When we always think we’re right and have the attitude that it’s “my way or the highway,” we’ve already lost the battle.

But we really get in trouble when we carry this attitude into our relationship with the Lord. With Him there is no stalemate. No negotiation. He doesn’t agree to disagree.

Psalm 119 tells us, “Forever, O Lord, Your word is settled in heaven” (vs. 89 NKJV). That means it's etched in stone. Unchangeable.

God will patiently listen to our complaints, but in every situation, He has the final say. Case closed.

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The Problem with Cliques

 

By Andrea Merrell

You are all one in Christ Jesus.

Galatians 3:28 NKJV

 

Have you ever tried to be part of a tight-knit group that refused to let you in?

There are a lot of different names for these folks: Clubs. Gangs. Packs. Clans. Factions. In-crowd. But whatever you call them, they fall under the definition of clique: a small group of people who share interests, spend time together, and don’t allow others to join them.

I’ve experienced these exclusive groups in social settings, the workplace, conferences, and large families. But the sad news is we find them even in the church.

To feel exclusive is to exclude others, and being excluded can hurt deeply and leave lasting emotional scars. Cliques can create dissension, confusion, and resentment. They perpetuate  the idea of conforming to the group while losing individuality. And heaven help those who go against the rest of the group.

I once heard someone say, “Oh, you Christians are nothing but a clique. You think you’re better than everyone else.”

Paul states in Galatians that we are all “one in Christ Jesus.” In Romans he says as Christians we are many but all part of one body—the Body of Christ (12:4-5). He also tells us that God does not show favoritism (2:11 NLT).

The Body of Christ, therefore, is not a clique. It is a group of like-minded individuals who love the Lord and embrace others, inviting them to enter God’s kingdom and become part of His family.

Are you inviting others in?

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Are You Enough?

 

By Andrea Merrell

Not that we are sufficient of ourselves 

to think of anything as being 

from ourselves, but our sufficiency is from God.

2 Corinthians 3:5 NKJV

“I don’t need God,” the man said. “I don’t need anyone. I am enough.”

How sad that so many people have the same mindset, thinking they are up to the task of handling whatever life throws at them.

One morning during my quiet time, I realized that without God I am nothing, I have nothing, and I can do nothing. To some that might sound like a sad way to live, but for me, it’s the best and only way. Here’s why.

Without God: I am nothing, just a sinner, lost and struggling to find my way in this world. I have no identity, no purpose, and no destiny.

With God: I am a child of the King. Loved. Redeemed. Full of purpose and headed toward eternity in His holy presence. That’s my identity. That’s who I am.

Without God: I have nothing. I can attain nothing of lasting value on my own. Everything I acquire is simply wood, hay, and stubble (1 Corinthians 3:12).

With God: I have everything I need. He is my source. Every good and perfect gift comes from Him (James 1:17). He has given me all things needed to live a godly life (2 Peter 1:3).

Without God: I can do nothing. Jesus said that Himself in John 15:5. My thoughts, strength, and wisdom are insufficient on this journey through life without Him.

With God: I can do all things through Christ (Philippians 4:13) because His strength is made perfect in my weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).

The Message translation of Philippians 4:13 sums it up like this: “Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am.” 

Some view God as a crutch. They believe that if they lean heavily on Him, it exposes their weakness. The truth is we are all weak. But when we bring our weakness to Him, He pours His strength into every area of our life. He gives us our true identity (in Him), provides whatever we need, and empowers us to do anything and everything He calls us to do.

Are you enough? In Him you are—because He is more than enough.

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A Servant’s Heart

 

By Andrea Merrell

Do the will of God with all your heart.  

Work with enthusiasm, as though

you were working for the Lord rather than for people.

Ephesians 6:6-7 NLT

 

She was already doing so much—teaching Sunday school, leading a Bible study, greeting, and working in the nursery—then they asked her to clean the church building.

The woman was exhausted and heading for burnout. Going to church felt like going to work, but she had a servant’s heart and couldn’t bring herself to say no. 

Sometimes we need to stop and ask ourselves, Why do I do what I do? Is it because I truly love my  place of service and feel called by the Lord, or have I been guilted into something I really don’t want to do?

Paul tells us that when we serve, it’s not to be as “men-pleasers” but as servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart. He goes on to say that whatever we do should be done “as unto the Lord and not to men.”

Let your heart—and your service—be motivated by grace, not guilt, knowing that “the Lord will reward each one of us for the good we do” (Ephesians 6:8 NLT).

That’s God’s way.

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Living Love Letters

 

By Andrea Merrell

You are living letters written by Christ,

not with ink but by the Spirit of the living God.

2 Corinthians 3:3 TPT

 

My husband recently told one of our granddaughters that she should learn to “read the room” when she enters. In other words, don’t burst in talking, complaining, or being rowdy. Take a breath and give yourself time to discern the mood and atmosphere. Know what’s going on before you interrupt.

Shortly after, I heard someone talking about the same thing, only from a different slant: “Are you reading the room or is the room reading you?”

Some call our lives a book, others a letter written to the people around us. If that’s true, what message are we sending? What is our life saying to others? Or maybe the better question is what should our life be saying to others?

The apostle Paul said, “You are living letters written by Christ, not with ink but by the Spirit of the living God.” And the previous verse says our letters are “recognized and read by everybody.”

As God’s children, we become new creations, replacing the old with the new. Our sins are washed away, and we are made “as white as snow” (Isaiah 1:18 NKJV). A clean slate. That’s when the Holy Spirit begins to write our new story.

The Word for You Today says, “Nothing is more needed today than a living portrait of Jesus reflected in the lives of His redeemed people. So, deliver your love letter to whoever crosses your path.”

Are you ready?

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